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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else.  I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school.  We are sexless.  I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life.  We are headed for divorce.[/quote]

When those once-thriving kids become children of divorce, and eventually start exhibiting serious behavioral problems to include depression, mental health problems, drug abuse, etc. how will you explain to them that your sex drive was more important than they were?[/quote]

Except that doesn’t usually happen.

— Divorced dad whose kids are thriving now more than before[/quote]

I'm just now divorced and we have kids spanning from late teen to young adult age. I am sure if you asked my kids now they would all have preferred we remain together, but there is also something for them knowing that one should not put up with manipulative people who refuse to change. Our youngest daughter's counselor basically encouraged me to divorce my wife based on the toxic relationship of my ex and our daughter. She said "Once you leave it will validate the hurt she has from her narcissistic mother which she has trouble acknowledging now [pre divorce] and she will have at least one stable parent."

Since the divorce our daughter has frequently opened up to me about how she wishes her mom had been empathetic and affectionate towards her. Hopefully she will find a mate who is those things some day.[/quote]

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