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[quote=Anonymous]I am "the package" poster.  Unfortunately, I can't elaborate much more than what I said in my post.  However, the women in my circle are all much closer to each other than I am to any of them.  I started to realize that they saw each other more and that I wasn't being invited.  So, I reached out and asked a couple of them why.  "The package" answer is what I got.  I took away from the conversation that, because I tend to not join in on the husband harping or child whining (or child bragging), that I appear to be acting as though I'm above that (?! I mean, they're right, I don't join in but not because I'm above it -- mainly I'm just listening to what they say.  I also feel it's unfair to rag on my husband to others, so I try not to do it...).  I guess they think that I don't find them interesting so they get self-conscious???  I also got told that my house isn't messy enough and one of them doesn't like to come over because I make her feel bad that she left her house in a lousy condition.  Well, hell, I clean my house for my friends when I invite them over!  I don't always have a pristine house!!!  However, there is a part of me that can't stand these women and them judging me because I "seem" to have my stuff together!  Of course I don't have it together!  Nobody does.  I thought being an adult meant leaving jealousy and pettiness aside, but I haven't found it to be the case.

IDK, I've kind of realized that I have to pick and choose my friends carefully.  I would love to be involved in more "girls nights" and kids playdates but I can't help the way people feel about me.  Like I said, I've tried to be more self-deprecating -- but I still won't join bitch sessions.  I'm starting to look to other aspects of my life for friends but I still take it personally.   [/quote]

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