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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Presumably the same mirrors you have at home work for your wife, right? Maybe she doesn't want to be attractive to/for you. [/quote]

OP here. I was never the worlds most attractive guy, but I’m basically the same I was when we got married. About 10 lbs heavier maybe half muscle half fat. Far stronger and fitter now. [/quote]

Did you grow 2 or more babies in your womb for 9 months each, push them out of your vagina, and breastfeed them for a few months? Did you suffer any traumatic (emotionally or physically) injuries from that?

Do you help with the cooking, cleaning, child rearing (without her asking you), schedule doctor and orthodontist appointments, do the laundry, make your bed, plan birthday parties, sign permission slips, buy birthday presents, and carry half the mental load for the family?

I sympathize with your situation and wish your DW all the luck in her health/exercise journey but you sound like a jerk.[/quote]

Oh here we go! The I had a baby now I can be a fatty excuse.  I had a baby and was back to my size 6 six months later. No excuses, no explanations. I bet if they get divorced and she goes on back on the market she’ll lose weight. [/quote]
You do realize that not everyone is the same.  Not all women are can bounce back after 6months and the fact that you think all women can do this tells me that ignorance about the differences in people's bodies is pervasive in men and women.

I'm not excusing OP's wife.  And quite frankly, I was not attracted to DH when he was 40lbs over weight. He has lost  that extra weight, mostly around the belly.  But he acknowledges that men have it much easier in terms of losing weight.  Before DH lost the weight I told him that when he hugs me it's uncomfortable because his belly pushes my body (I am very petite).

I don't know OP... it's a vicious cycle. She  may feel badly about herself, and so she keeps eating.  It's very discouraging to try to lose weight when you try and try and you barely lose a pound.  That's how it is with some women.   I can't even lose 5lbs right now, and I have started skipping breakfast, and yes, I "exercise" by walking a lot and gardening, and I don't eat that much.  I still can't lose 5lbs.  I'd have to go on a 1200 calorie diet to do so, but there's no way in h3ll I'm going to do that because I like eating good food. That doesn't mean I pig out, and I don't eat a lot of sweets. I barely eat any sweets, other than with my morning coffee.  I don't have a sweet tooth, unlike my DH.  But, like I said I still can't even lose 5lbs.

NP.[/quote]

If you don't have THAT much extra weight, yes, it can be hard to lose 5 pounds.  But I bet that if you were 40 pounds overweight, you'd be able to lose five![/quote]

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