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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me guess, you are a woman and the non working spouse a man?

Or, have you always been the primary parent and home handler?[/quote]

Thank you all for the validation without being rude.  In the pre-covid world DH works more than I do and so I do take on the primary parent and home handler role. Right now that's switched to DH working zero hours and my work is ramped up.  House handling and parenting feels harder simply because we are home 100% of the time.  There aren't school and dog walkers and housecleaners and playdates and all the rest of life to ease those burdens.  I partly needed perspective since my temper is so short and I don't want to explode if in fact I'm being unreasonable.  Social media doesn't help watching friends baking bread and taking family hikes when I barely get through the day.[/quote]

New poster here.  Even before the gender was revealed or who did what I was going to say you should have shifts.  I would treat it like how we did when one of had to wake up when the kids were babies.  IMO no one parent should be 24-7 with two adults in the household even if one person is home during the day- maybe the split looks different but there should be a shared load.  There was a good opinion piece in NYT about parenting in quarantine. The goals are trying to come out on the other side without getting divorced, getting fired, or kids running away.  So as a team, how can you both work together - not to be Pinterest perfect but to survive with jobs and families in tact.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/13/opinion/parenting-coronavirus-burnout.html

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