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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You didn't go to the funeral but want photos. No.

You didn't even help organise the service. They owe you nothing. If it meant anything to you you would have travelled for the service. [/quote]. 
 
My dad did not want a service. He did not want his siblings or me to have to make two cross county trips in a short amount of time. His siblings also visited him before he passed away. The stepfamily decided to give him a small graveside service for just them. I helped pay for it. They don’t owe me anything but they are the reason my dad was in such a precarious financial position. We helped my dad many times because of this. They said they would send photos of the gravesite to my aunt via email or phone but they did not send them to her either. Is it wrong to ask them to follow through on this?[/quote]

They were his caretakers.  Do you have any idea what is involved with that as you clearly don't.  You are demanding and annoying.  You could have gone to the graveside service.  You could have cared for him his last few weeks or even the last few years and choose not to.  But, its easier to complain.[/quote]

Also, if you read the whole thread, we were helping him by sending checks. We offered to move him near us or to have him stay with us but he did not want to move. He loved hot weather and did not need daily care from anyone. He wanted to stay in a warm climate just like many seniors who relocate away from their families.

They were not his caretakers. He was very independent until the last few weeks. He even declined a home aide. He was still driving to the store when his hospice nurse first visited him. He declined quickly in a few weeks. The hospice nurse had to really convince him to go to hospice when he started to fall and refused a home aide.[/quote][/quote]

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