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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A graveside service is a funeral.

People often have some sort of short term insanity surrounding a close relative’s death, and money is at the heart of all their complaints. You seem to be suffering from this common ailment. Wishing you peace. [/quote]

Does this mean that I should forget about the photos? Is it crazy to wonder why they did not follow through with sending them?
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You seem to have no idea how much work is involved in dealing with a relative's passing.  Not just making the funeral arrangements, but winding down their financial affairs, dealing with their stuff, sorting through papers, paying final bills, closing accounts.  It's a huge job, even when the financial estate is small.  I would probably send photos if I found them, but if I were a step-child that was left with this job, I wouldn't be super inclined to hop to do things on your schedule.  Particularly if you didn't even bother to show up for his "graveside service." [/quote]

They took him to close his bank accounts before he went into hospice. He supposedly paid his last credit card bill himself. He did not want a service. He signed over his car to help with his final costs. They did have to sell it. He did not want, any of his own family, all from out of state, to have to travel there, twice, in a short amount of time. His siblings also visited him before he passed away. They decided on a plan, with a graveside service, before I even knew he had passed, on the same day. They were the only ones there. I helped pay for it even though it was not something he had wanted. It has been a few months. I didn’t think they would send anything right away. He was a very neat and organized person who had already done a lot of downsizing. It would not have taken long for them to go through his stuff. He did not want to burden anyone including us with a service. They had said they would send photos and video at the gravesite to my aunt via phone or email and they did not do that either. It would have only taken a few minutes do to that.[/quote]

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