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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should be providing support. I don’t understand why you didn’t before,[/quote]

Wait, why should I support them? They are not my blood...[/quote]
Your son is not your blood? I’m confused. Support for the non custodial parent as you out earn him.[/quote]

Why would OP provide support when the other parent has no custody and the child only occasionally visits? [/quote]

Sounds like visitation was regular before Covid. Yes she should be paying child support. It’s meant to equalize the difference in the incomes for the child. [/quote]

Visitation was twice a month. What expenses do I have to pay for him? He comes fully clothed and with his own food. Should I pay "room and board"? :lol:

He doesn't pay for camps, vacations, etc. When we were divorcing, that's what HE actually proposed: "you get the full custody but I don't have to pay. YOU provide for him, but I still want to see him". Fair and square. So why again am I supposed to "equalize the income difference"?

He went to college. He went to grad school. He has a security clearance. Not my fault he didn't want to seek a higher paying employment.[/quote]

Actually that is reasonable to say you should pay all expenses as you have the higher income and he gets 3 days a month - that isn't being a Dad or having a real relationship. [b] If you wanted them to have a relationship you'd encourage more time[/b], have shared custody and treated the stepmom nicer.  You choose to send food.  They have food there but you raised a brat.[/quote]

Wait a minute. So not only do I have to do all the "fun" stuff with my DS, I should also ENCOURAGE someone to spend more time with his own child? Don't you think I am already doing enough?

And who said my son was not nice to his stepmom? He is courteous to her, he is polite to her. She is invited to his events. She doesn't socialize with other people, barely says hello. He doesn't want to eat the food that she makes. Should he force it down his throat? He brought it home a few times. I couldn't eat it either, it was very heavy. Should he starve while he's there? Absolutely not. So instead of forcing a mother of 3 to cook him a separate meal, I send him with his containers. I don't mind cooking what he can actually eat.

And for your information, it was exDH who did not want shared custody. 'Too busy rebuilding his life' - his words, not mine.

So tell me, who is a brat here?[/quote]

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