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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

[b]I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though[/b].  Especially, if they are not even married to their SO.  Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property?  If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to.  That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.[/quote]
It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.[/quote]

I mean it's misleading because they may be going in for half of the mortgage but they still do not actually own the property. "My boyfriend let's me live in his house in exchange for me paying half of the mortgage" is not the same thing as "I own this property".  If my friend was also putting her own money into fixing up/maintaining a property that she had no ownership rights to then I would be a bit concerned for her.  Acting "like" and owner doesn't make you an owner.[/quote]

It seems like a REALLY weird line to draw with a friend.  I don't GAF what their personal arrangements are.  [/quote]

Why lie about something that other people, though?  Why purposely tell your family/friends that you bought a house when you did not.  That would be like your boyfriend allowing you to drive one of his cars and you saying "Look everyone!  I bought a car!!"  Why go out of your way to present yourself in a way that is not true?  I think it's the deliberate deception that is concerning.

Back when dh and I were living together people often assumed that we were a married couple.  We weren't intentionally telling people that we were married and if someone asked if we were married or mentioned that they thought that we were married we would quickly set the record straight.

Why pretend to be something your not?  I just don't understand the reasoning I guess.[/quote]

Because most of us don't equate "owning a house" with "being something", nor do we care to know the details of how couples split their finances. In fact, most of us find sharing that kind of information quite gauche.

I left my awesome career to care for our special needs child. I still have a credit card in my name, but pretty much every cent in our shared bank account comes from DH's paycheck. Every time I buy something am I suppose to say "Look at this new lipstick DH just paid for?" "I enrolled my kid in this great therapy program using the money DH makes."  And when I needed a new car we went to buy one at the dealer together but I left with DS before the paperwork was done because he was getting restless. So not only did DH pay for it, it's just his name on the title. Should I not have sent a picture of the new car to my sister saying "Hey, I finally got a new car!"

If you answer "yes" to these questions, you are a very petty person. And perhaps lacking in social graces?[/quote]

Again you are MARRIED.  That is different from being UNMARRIED.  Unmarried SOs have the same legal rights to their SO's property as a roommate does - in other words NO RIGHTS.

When I bought a house with my boyfriend we each owned it 50/50 and if one of us died, the deceased person's property would have gone to whichever one of us was the survivor.  [/quote]

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