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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]guy here.  I have two pictures I can use.  One shows me on top of the Tetons (not mentioning I took the tram and am gasping for oxygen), and the other shows me sitting on the couch scratching my balls.  Which one do you think I am going to use?  I certainly spend a lot more time on couch than the Tetons.

The same thing applies to women:  don't show yourself at Nat's park if you have gone there once.  I am going to assume that is your happy place, and picture a life where we watch baseball together either in person on on the sofa (I got balls to scratch) for 162 games per year (181 last year).  I would expect you would grasp the goal of scheduling vacations around road trips (Coors field and ATT Park are nice starting points).  But then you do not even know the significance of 6-4-3.   Or know what I am talking about with that wonder Oct 30th clang.

It goes both ways.  When I find out your idea of entertainment  is TCM and not MASN.....[/quote]

OP here and I get there may be some snarkery in there but I don't think you are being unreasonable.

Of course our pictures are not going to be 100% accurate, otherwise they'd all be pictures of us in our office, our bedroom, or our kitchen, or stuck in traffic. The idea is that you show who you are when it's your choice to express yourself. I'd like pictures to tell me: What do I choose to do with the discretionary time I have, and what will my partner and I be spending weekends doing?

I'm not going to post pictures of myself at a Nats game, since I have no idea what it is you are talking about. Likewise, if it's a 75 degree day out and you are in the basement playing Minecraft, maybe take some screenshots of your playing Minecraft, or however that's done. Don't show me pictures of yourself on the beach or in the mountains because I'm going to want to drag you out of your man cave and go explore an actual cave. The idea is to be upfront about what kind of life you want to have with your girlfriend. Not: show pictures of yourself that make you look like a fun person that girls would like, only to complain that a girl is too high-maintenance because they actually want to go out and do things. [/quote]

PP here.  My approach, when I dated, was to be honest about myself.   What I like to do, what I don't like to do.  I do not enjoy Opera.  I would not claim too.  Baseball yes.  When I first tried on-line dating (1996-1997), I was a young professional (still profession, young not so much); I liked to watch sports; I also like semicolons.  I am into weather and astronomy, but (unlike most astronomy buffs), I am not a night owl.  I admitted that.  I met my ex based on going out to see Comet Hale-Bopp.  She worked mornings, so I assumed she was a morning person too.  She misled me about a lot of things:  what she did (She named the company but not her role).  She mentioned her house with housemates,....it was only after I had fallen for her that I found out that she was the receptionist...and her housemates were her mom dad and sister (she was 30).  I looked past it.  Oh, morning person...only because she had to be up early for work.  She talked about loving baseball; we went to an O's game and she got bored and wanted to leave after the 4th inning...The sex was good, though.  Until it wasn't.

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So if you knew upfront that she was a receptionist, didn't like baseball, lived with her parents, and wasn't a morning person then you wouldn't have dated her? [/quote]

Probably not, TBH.  We divorced and I got custody of our kid (who is now an adult).
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That sounds very closeminded but expected of the 'professional' guys in this area. My fiance runs his own business with 25 employees still lives at home but pays for stuff, is a night owl, and not into baseball but soccer. We met when he was making only 27k after graduation. His investments world-wide properties and business make him a millionaire now. Then again I'm more accepting and I'm not white American so that closemindedness isn't something that I was raised with. [/quote]

NP here and I wouldn't date someone that lived with their parents at 30.  Sorry, there's a certain amount of independence associated with moving out and having your own place.  Good for you that you found the exception to the rule but there's usually some underlying issues if someone is still living with mom and dad at that age.  That said, I'm not sure why a topic of conversation on the first date wouldn't be along the lines of what do you do at the Company since we spend so much of our days at work it's a natural discussion.[/quote]

We live in an expensive area. Past peoples anal criticism and judgy remarks it only makes logical sense to live with family and help with bills or rent if it will allow you to save money for a house as my bf has done.[/quote]

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