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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How was your daughter as a toddler? My daughter exhibits ALL these behaviors exactly and she’s 4. It started at 2. We were in OT which was helping and I was planning to do a social skills group before covid-19 happened. We met with a neuropysch who said it’s possible she has very high functioning autism and could even fall off the curve in the future but if she’s improving with OT then we should wait to do testing. Life at home is hard many many days. Hugs. [/quote]

So, beyond diagnosis what are you doing to change things at home to make things better?[/quote]

We give 2 “really good choices” to avoid meltdowns and remain in control. [b]We never use the word “no” [/b]but say things like we can’t do xyz but how about this? Constant reminder to focus on herself. When she is mean to friends we were told not to say that’s mean but redirect and make a huge deal about something the other kid said. Example would be a kid says I’m super tall and have long hair!” My daughter will say “I’m taller than you! Haha”. I step in and say “oh my goodness Anna your hair is long! You must love to style your hair. Did you know Amy loves to do Elsa braids?”  My daughter is crazy competitive even over the most ridiculous stuff and it’s because she’s insecure. At[b] 4 kids are already pulling away from her because of her behavior and she lashes out in retaliation[/b]. She’s so sweet it’s just like she’s socially awkward. Like others said you don’t need to ignore the bad behavior but seriously react to the good behavior and discuss it again and again in calm situations. We’re also working with a childhood behaviorist who did a home study and school study and she had some great ideas. [/quote]

OP, maybe it's time to try some "no." You have let this get too far out of control.[/quote] I’m not the OP. I was advised by a neuropsych and child behavior specialist not to say the actual word no. Believe me my kid is still told no without me using the word. It’s actually been super helpful for the past 6 months we have been following these directions. [/quote]

Okay. Watch the kids keep pulling away from her, though.[/quote] What do you suggest? [/quote]

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