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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not trying to be snobby but I have been on Tinder and OKC and most of my matches are....not college educated and/or blue collar. Some of them are hot and smart. But I am looking for a longterm match with a 30something UMC guy with a professional job.

Is it my profile? What is going on?[/quote]

Are you UMC with a professional job?[/quote]

Yes[/quote]

You need to network at work. UMC generally meet st school or work... maybe neighbors.  Do you live in a nice building of 30 professionals? Have a ‘block party’ in common room.  Use building gym more (but $$$ gym works too). UMC on OKC and tinder are looking for hot 20 something for a fling, not 30 year with ticking clock. [/quote]

Great idea. I work for an international development non profit so my colleagues are all women and gay men. :\[/quote]
You work for an org does that definitely does not pay you well. You would never really cross paths with UMC men at a Chemonics or the like. Why didn't you try harder to meet men in grad school? Certainly, there would have been men going into consulting or something there. [/quote]

I met my soon to be ex husband in graduate school. And yes my career doesn't pay "UMC salary" but I have had the "UMC life" of international travel, intellectual conversations about foreign policy, art books and politics. Its hard to chat with someone who's best trip ever was NYC. Or someone that doesn't know about quinoa. [/quote]

OP, have you tried socializing with your alumni groups? At least that way you know the guys will have the education that you want. I posted before that you need to let your network know you want to be set up. Expand your network and ask married women for help with blind dates.

I mean this gently, but is your profession one that has a long career path? Most female non-profit workers I've known don't make much money, and they either enter better paying fields or drop out of the workforce to become SAHMs by their early 30's. I really haven't seen a lot of late 30's plus women still working these $60K/year jobs. The ones I know who do are married to other low earners so not working isn't an option. I didn't meet my husband until my early 30's, and I can say that there seemed to be a big difference in salary expectations for women in their late 20's/early 30's than in early 20's. Early 20's, most guys weren't looking at a woman's earning potential. By late 20's/early 30's, many men were looking for either a good earner so they could have a good HHI together or the guy made lots of money and wanted a wife who would become a SAHM. Salary can disqualify a woman much more at that stage of life. I made a good salary so I had tons of dating prospects, but lots of guy friends nixed women who wouldn't be able to contribute to the UMC lifestyle they wanted. No disrespect intended towards any profession, just trying to help OP identify any potential issues to meeting the kind of guy she says she's looking for.[/quote]

Thank you for your feedback. I have thought about this, yes. I need to find out how I can leverage my experience into a better paying career path, There is a very real possibility I may be alone so I need to determine how to support myself.[/quote]

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