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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
You say there are better ways to do this... well, start by suggesting one!

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I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Any suggestions about what to say?[/quote]

I'm really sympathetic to your friend, but this comes across as extremely entitled.  There's really no other way to read this besides "here's a list of things I want.  Send them by X date."

I like the suggestions for a Zoom shower, and for someone to solicit videos of tips, which you can offer to compile and play for everyone at the virtual shower.  I also really like the suggestion that you, or another friend, offer to circulate the registry instead, so it's not coming from her.  It's much easier/less entitled for you to send an email like "Hi, all -- I know we're all disappointed that Larla's shower had to be cancelled.  [UPDATE HERE ON HOW SHE'S DOING, nursery updates, blah blah blah]  If you're able to send a gift, and would like to, I've included a link to the registry below."

As for a script for your friend, I'd say something along the lines of "I know it's not your intention, but it does come across as kind of a gift grab.  I worry that people will read it as 'here's a list of things to buy me, and do it now!" But I know people will want to support you guys -- why don't I send it out, so people won't read it the wrong way?"[/quote]

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