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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. My dad has OCD and I’ve started worrying I’m crossing the line. I always thought of it like a spectrum and I was very mild. In fact I liked how organized I was and didn’t see it as a problem. It’s helped me at work also. But I don’t want to be a rigid mom who is not letting my kids have a fun childhood.

I’d be grumpy too if I were 3 and all my mom did was make me clean up messes. It’s hard to get their cooperation too. The 1 year old is pretty wild and defiant.

Because of their ages they can’t clean at the end of the day- it’s too overwhelming for them and they can’t remember where stuff goes.

It’s just exhausting but I guess that’s how it is? Yes they were in daycare and on weekends we did a lot out of the house so this wasn’t a problem before. I wasn’t exaggerating about 3 hours. I clean/laundry/dishes from 8-11pm when I go to bed. The mess sucks.

Dh can’t help because he teleworks all afternoon and night. But he does a lot and is a great dad and husband [/quote]

OP, as someone who has been evaluated for OCD, what I was told was that I ought to consider medication if it was affecting my life.  Like, if I couldn't leave the house unless it was at the top of the hour and was therefore late for work if it was 7:01 so I had to sit there for 59 minutes until it turned to 8.  (Luckily I've never been like that, I only insist on setting my alarm in 15-minute increments...).  Or if I couldn't stand to host anything because people might move a couch pillow out of place.  Or if it affected a relationship because I wanted everything in the fridge put away perfectly straight with the labels facing outward.  I've discovered that while I like things to be perfect, I am able to compromise as needed such that it does not have a negative impact on my life.  If it did, I would consider medication.  Since you feel like your perfectionism is starting to affect your mental health (i.e. the rage you're feeling), you may want to consider a telehealth appointment to see if you should look into medication to help.[/quote]

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