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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound awesome.  It always astonishes me the level of vitriol on here for good mothers.  You have obviously made every attempt and literally gone out of your way (by moving into his building) to make it easy for your child's father to be involved, but he has taken precisely none of your offers up except weekly playtime.  It's preposterous to think this man should have 50% decision making authority after 11 years of, at best, being the child's weekly playdate.

I do think the courts don't look very kindly on circumstances of voluntary impoverishment.  Do you actually know what his income is?  Do his parents fund his housing, or does the trust provide him with unearned income?  I wonder if you've ever calculated what his child support would be with an online calculator.

I'm sorry he is so useless and is now seeking to have decision making authority.  Any idea what recent change in circumstances might have motivated this?  Is there something about the child's ADHD diagnosis that has made a change in the child's life that the dad disagrees with?[/quote]

Thank you for your kind words.  I don't know his income but I have requested his tax returns through my lawyer.  I know he has about $400,000 in a brokerage account, several properties that his father left him (including his condo where he doesn't pay a mortgage).  So far he has dismissed my lawyer's requests for the tax returns.  I have communicated to him through his lawyer that I have no intention of denying him the Sunday visitation he asked for.  The issue of legal custody remains as well as his unwillingness to show his income.  My guess is that if he didn't have more than he is willing to share he would provide his records.[/quote]

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