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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also a pregnant FTM. I am also particular about what I buy for this baby given how challenging it was to conceive and the fact that I’m 35.  Though to be fair, I’m particular in general 😉.

I probably wouldn’t care too much about the onesies (bc the baby will need lounge around the house clothes to throw up in.) Whatwould piss me if off is the crib mattress and being gifted more durable items. It’s kind, but I want the mattress I want. Same with the changing pad, playard, loungers, baby monitor etc. I see it as every woman gets to be a first time mom once - don’t take my joy under the guise of saving me money or worse, letting me know how little I know. You too, were once a first time mom. I want the advice for sure, but some people overstep.

So I get where you’re coming from OP.  Im actually fairly thrifty but am nervous about having one friend see my registry. I know she’ll judge me for not buying a Mesa, not a Chico, or a Dock a Tot instead of a Boppy Pillow. I suspect that’s what you’re worried about too - the judgement. [/quote]

Where is the joy in picking out a changing pad? Shopping for all those items was boring and tedious.

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I didn’t find it boring and tedious at all.  I enjoyed researching options and ultimately decided to go with the Hatch which allows you to also weigh your baby. Judge away.

Some women enjoy this stuff. And can afford to buy exactly what they want. And we’re not all ditzes who aren’t smart enough to recognize clever marketing and still make an informed decision. [/quote]

With my first baby I really enjoyed setting up the nursery just so. I loved picking out the colors and choosing the softest most comfortable clothes. It was such a special time, I think it’s really mean for other women to try belittle or mock that experience.

With my second child, I bought almost nothing and actually donated lots of stuff I never used with my first. I still enjoyed buying a few special outfits for him though. There’s no shame in that.

We all have certain things we enjoy buying new or spending money on that others might find frivolous. The moms who are obsessed with ‘Buy nothing’ and second-hand gear need to get over themselves.

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