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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really think your kid will never wear a onesie just because you don’t love the pattern? Newsflash: you’re going to need a zillion Carter’s onesies with a baby and many will end up with barf and poop stains on them. You will need extras for child care, your diaper bag, the car, etc. None of what she’s giving you sound like things you wouldn’t use and you sound, frankly, whiny and ungrateful. If you don’t want your friends giving you hand me downs, just tell them. Don’t complain to DCUM. You’re not a victim with your friend offloading garbage on you like you’re trying to convey. You’re not communicating yourself to your friend and that’s on you. And also, when you find your newborn going through a zillion onesies in a day in a few months and changing sheets frequently due to puke and blowouts you’ll realize what a diva you sounded like complaining about these hand me downs and maybe you will realize you should have held onto them. Sheesh. [/quote]

I completely disagree with this. My babies were born at 8 pounds but quickly jumped to the 99th percentile for height. I got so many 3 month and 6 month and 9 month onesies as gifts or hand me downs - we probably used only 10% of them because each size only fit for a few weeks. We went through sizes so fast it was overwhelming to deal with all the extra clothes. I wish I hadn’t listened to the people like PP who claimed that “of course” I would need SO MANY clothes. Wrong!

It is not helpful to have tons of clothes to store. Same for a bunch of baby toys and gear. I ended up donating most of it completely unused by me.

It’s so much better to get a only a few things ahead of time and then just buy what you need as you go.

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Most kids don’t jump sizes that fast. [b]That was your experience [/b]but it’s not necessarily typical or normal growth for other people’s kids. [/quote]

Of course it was my experience! I was just giving ONE example of how stocking up on tons of stuff is not helpful. Other moms have other reasons why it’s unhelpful.

I was responding to the cocky moms saying OP was precious or naive for thinking she wouldn’t use the stuff. There are many reasons why it’s much better to get things as you go - my experience is one example. [/quote]

PP who is also not a FTM. You do realize that not everyone wants to or can afford to blow hundreds of dollars to purchase all needed items “as they go” or feels it is necessary or a judicious use of their money or resources to purchase everything a child is going to use for a short period of time brand new, right? Your post alone illustrates that some kids may only be in a size for a short window. It seems like a waste of money to then purchase a bunch of new clothes then which will be used for a very short period of time, no?

Also, I think what some of us find annoying about OP is her excessive explanation about her friend’s preference for finding things used or for free. It’s pretty clear form her post that she finds this practice distasteful and you know what? That’s fine. But she’s not owning that fact and instead blaming a friend for giving her some normal, useful items that pretty much all FTMS need - mattress pads, blankets, and onesies. If she wants all her things brand new, then fine. But she’s not being an adult about it. A simple text to her friend would solve all of this. [/quote]

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