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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I feel sorry for this poster and the OP for that matter.  We are a same-sex couple with a transracially adopted child in Arlington and we rarely get questions, let alone "intense scrutiny" or "constant glare of attention." There are lots of adoptive families in Arlington, many of them transracial.  Adoption here is just another way that people form families.

I don't know the posters who feel overwhelmed but a lot of it really may be their own attitude and insecurity.  I don't know where these people live but in many years as an adoptive parent (and a same sex couple family on top of it), it's been very rare for us to get intrusive questions.  Curiosity, yes.  Basic questions, yes.  Rude questions (why didn't you adopt X way?, why didn't DC's birthfamily want her? etc etc) extremely rarely.  We certainly don't feel everyone staring at us.  Seriously, unless these posters are the only adoptive family for miles around and unless their child is the only person of color for miles around (hope that's not the case for the child's sake...and it's hard to imagine either scenario being true if they live in the DC area), I'd suggest that people who adopt transracially and then complain about the intrusiveness either 1) have a lot of unresolved adoption/fertility issues; and/or 2) really did not think about what it means to become a transracial family -- for the sake of their children, I hope they start doing some soul-searching.[/quote]

Really??? Whatever, it sounds like you are the insecure one who seeks validation for your family in random passerby-ers. Anyway, I am tired of playing the "Someone is wrong on the internet" game.[/quote]

Hardly - it's just that when you are a transracial family (and a same-sex couple-headed one in addition), you're visible.  No need for validation from anyone, and no fear/hang-ups about dealing with basic questions like "where did you adopt your child from?"  [/quote]

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