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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dr Phil says the only thing you need to have in common is that  you love each other. He says he and his wife have no interests or hobbies alike, yet they have been married for years.
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Eh, I can't agree with that. I think you have to have a similar vision for your future. I dated a very nice blue-collar guy in my 20s and it was fantastic until we started thinking about getting more serious and discussing our vision of family life. I am also liberal and he was conservative - this was long before Trump so politics weren't as heated a subject. However, being conservative meant he was a very traditional person. He wanted someone to attend church with him on Sundays - I am not an atheist but I am not a fan of organized religion and was definitely not going to participate in that. Additionally, his expectation was that the mother of his children was going to quit working outside of the home and focus on raising the children - he wanted his wife at home with the kids full time, even school aged kids. His own mother was there to greet him at the door even as a high schooler and he felt strongly that this was the only acceptable way to raise children.

I fully respect families/women who make that choice for themselves, but there was just no way I was going to agree to stay at home for the next two decades. Now that I have kids, that decision is reaffirmed - I suffered through both maternity leaves and don't think I could be a happy and fulfilled SAHM. He was a sweet, upstanding, family-oriented guy - I am sure he made someone a very lovely husband, but that was not going to be me. [/quote]

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