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If you want to quibble over my number (1% versus like 4% or even 5%) that's inconsequential. The fact is VAST majority of married men who cheat are in that "sexually starved" group just as you acknowledged, so I think we are generally in agreement. Surely you were not claiming men who don't normally travel or cheat, start traveling and cheating now that the wife is pregnant?  So again, we agree that "sexually starved" must be the correct answer to OP's subject question. [/quote]

There is no "fact", there's just your thinking.  I don't think it's even possible to know what the facts are.

You said something earlier about unmet sexual needs.  It may very well be true just as it may very well be true that these sexual needs simply cannot be met at home, or by any one woman.  There are men who need sexual variety to feel sexually fulfilled; no matter how simpatico the wife is, she can only be herself, and thus a man who desires different women cannot be fulfilled by one. Boredom is another reason; all bodies become too familiar and boring over time.  A longtime spouse, no matter how willing, cannot replace the thrill of novelty. What if a man's sexual needs include novelty? You're out of luck then. Others still cannot cope with the reality of aging - can a 50-something wife, no matter how willing, replace physical perfection of 20-year olds? What if physical attraction is simply no longer there? The wife is willing but to a husband she is no more desirable than a tree?  And then there are men who desire certain things sexually that they do not wish to be performed by their wife, the mother of their children, too good to do dirty things.  Things happen, life is long. Don't be so black and white. [/quote]

DP and this PP is exactly right.  The people on here that proclaim "only evil people cheat" and "it has nothing to do with being sexually neglected" are as useless as the troll who insists its only about sexual deprivation.

Humans and nuanced, human sexuality is an incredibly powerful force and motivator and to boil it down to simplistic reasons might make you feel in control (if he's good, he will never cheat - if you kept me satisfied, I would be faithful).  Sometimes, good people make bad decisions and sometime spouses neglect their marriages to predictable results.[/quote]

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