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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you for real? Is your current wife for real? So you have prioritized sex over your biological children and are now whining about it?[/quote]

Sex is certainly not the reason I stay.  I made a promise and swore to God I would remain for better or for worse, till death.

OTOH I did not sign up for losing my kids.

The weird thing is that she went along with (and actively participated in) some //incredibly// expensive plans I had to keep the kids happy during the divorce (some nice trips just with me and them), she bought brand new furniture/clothes/EVERYTHING for when they were at our house and set their rooms up, she worked with them to try and overcome some social issues they both had, took them shopping, to spas, etc.  Like model stepmom stuff.  And then suddenly they started to have issues and stuff was getting back to their mother (nothing bad, just private details of how we lived) and it was like a switch went off.

It went from "I can't believe it's working out this well" to "WTF just happened".  [/quote]

There is no "it", OP. There's you and decisions YOU chose to make. You are still deflecting and blaming your wife, your kids, anyone but you. YOU DID THIS, you made these choices. You told your kids not to come over. You chose to throw out photos of your kids and ex wife. You chose to allow two years to go by without contact with your kids. OWN these decisions and make better ones going forward. You can't defer your life to other people and then complain when things don't turn out the way you want. [/quote]

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