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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again here. One thing I can’t imagine not doing is helping with essays. I definitely will let her to the work but helping with college admissions essays was always kind of a hobby of mine. I loved helping with them. And I’ll be damned if my kids send submit essays that are essentially a narrative of their volunteer activities. I can’t believe how many bad ones people submit.[/quote]

I'm the 2.3 GPA PP. I don't actually remember writing essays but I'm sure whatever I wrote played a big part in getting me accepted anywhere. I had bad grades because I cut class and never did homework; I didn't flunk out because I could write essays and tested well. I doubt my parents read my essays. They were very uninvolved in my school life, or else I would have had better grades. They did, however, insist I was most certainly going to a real four-year school (not Palm Beach Community College, which was my plan) and they did pay most of my full-freight (though bargain for out-of-state) tuition. It was very important to my 99% uninvolved mom that I not graduate with a load of debt, for which I'm grateful (graduated with cum laude honors, FWIW). Less grateful for the strings that are emerging 20 years later as their piss-poor financial management/retirement planning is becoming painfully evident. And while they did cover tuition, I had to pay for all of my own expenses, including rent and books. So I worked multiple jobs and took summer classes.

In hindsight I can't believe they didn't insist on an in-state school, and I can't believe they paid for my siblings and me to go to school at the expense of their retirement savings (though in reality, if that money hadn't gone to our schooling, they would have blown it elsewhere). By the time my kids are in school the costs will be astronomical, so they'll either have to get scholarships and/or go in-state. I will help however I can, including with savings, with the application and selection process, visiting schools, etc. My parents may have paid for school, but it doesn't absolve their negligence. I won't repeat their mistakes and my kids will be set up to do better as a result.[/quote]

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