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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I am sorry you are feeling this way and struggling. My husband has similar issues but is undiagnosed with ADHD. Does your DH see there is a problem or think everything is hunky dory? Would he consider adjusting his medication and/or adding a behavioral therapy component?

I am reading a book called "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" and there are a few common patterns/dynamics that appear in ADHD marriages. It explains the patterns and also provides guidance for how to change those patterns (requiring work from both spouses to make adjustments). These patterns are dysfunctional and lead to discord and divorce more than couples that don't have an ADHD partner. Reading it has been eye-opening and helped me see that 1) it takes work for me to understand DH's perspective and his perspective is no picnic (in a different way than mine, like under an overwhelming burden of housework), and 2) it is not impossible to come back from this point. There are a lot of positive stories and couples at various stages of marriage and separation.

Good luck OP, I feel for you. [/quote]

NP who came across the same author, Melissa Orlov.  I have just started reading her books (she has two) and her website (https://www.adhdmarriage.com/) where she has blogs and forums - it has been AMAZINGLY helpful... if nothing else, helping me feel less alone in this mess.  There are really common dynamics that appear and are unique challenges in a marriage with an ADHD partner.  She provides helpful advice for BOTH parties to improve upon for the sake of the marriage.

:arrow:  :arrow:  :arrow: [b]I HIGHLY RECOMMEND TO ANYONE IN A CHALLENGING MARRIAGE WITH AN ADHD PARTNER![/b][/quote]

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