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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't imagine not giving a gift and a thank you card.  That's how I was raised and how I am raising my own kids.[/quote]

That's fine.  Just know that because it's your family practice doesn't make it universal or a norm.  Lots of people don't do this and wouldn't think of doing this though they very much appreciate you taking their child on a trip and think highly of you and your family for including their child.[/quote]

Lots of kids don't write thank you notes for birthday gifts, lots of parents don't bother to respond to Evites.  Manners are a lost art.[/quote]

But thank you notes and rsvps are KNOWN things.  They are maybe lost arts but only because everyone knew they were supposed to do them. This hostess gift thing is not clearly known by everyone. My mom was Ms. Manners and I'd never heard of this. We always brought wine when invited over to dinner and always sent thank you notes for gifts but nothing but verbal thank yous when a friend took me on a family trip.  Seems like a nice thing to do and nothing wrong with doing it, but it's not a known thing.[/quote]

Then your mom was def not Ms. Manners. [/quote]

Please, let's not besmirch the good name of Miss Manners!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-guests-arent-required-to-bring-gift-to-the-host/2015/01/27/d60e7c0a-a333-11e4-b146-577832eafcb4_story.html

"Despite the number of people who say they were brought up “never to appear empty-handed,” there are indeed circles in which this is not practiced.

It is not money that defines such people, but a sense of hospitality. While they may be pleased to receive an occasional bouquet or box of chocolates, they dislike what has come to seem like a barter system — a contribution in exchange for a meal. [b]The truly essential bargain between host and guest requires the guest only to respond promptly, show up on time, socialize with other guests, thank the host, write additional thanks and reciprocate.[/b]"[/quote]

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