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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- I can see why your DH a felt attacked and blamed for all of the problems in the marriage based on your arm chair degree diagnosis  so he flipped it around and started attacking you. When is the last time you told him what you appreciate about him or that he makes you so happy? As for the domestic  responsibilities, I don’t know a DH I would want to be married to that does close to half.  I am attracted to Alpha males and knew my DH was not going to take on a lot of domestic chores. When my kids were little I outsourced or hired help so I wasn’t resentful and everyone was happy.  Perhaps focus on the things you admire or attracted you to your DH...play on his strengths.[/quote]

So your attraction to Alpha males means you will happily tolerate doing 80 percent of the work while he... does what, exactly? Genuinely curious what the redeeming features are.

Not everyone is in a position financially to outsource. Right now we have high childcare costs (nanny plus preschool) and we can't afford to have someone clean the house, do laundry etc. every single week. If my husband isn't helping me, I'm doing it alone. Add to that a stressful full time job outside of the home and two young children, and without help, I start to feel like I'm drowning. Thankfully my husband pulls his weight around the house, but if he didn't, my life would be really hard. OP's life is hard because her husband refuses to contribute and it doesn't sound like outsourcing is an option. I'm not sure just "focusing on the positives" and just accepting that OP's husband will get to enjoy life and relax while she works like a dog is going to make for a happy marriage. [/quote]

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