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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I should add that right now we are trying to have family dinners once per week, based on his suggestion. We've done two since he's moved out and I find them painful due to the circumstances of how things ended, especially the one at his new place. I'm trying but still on the fence about the value.
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I disagree with some of the others. I think family dinners are a good idea, and with time the pain will fade. I'd keep SOME pics of you all together. And as you note, do not bad mouth him. I understand this will be incredibly painful for you in the short term, and a therapist should help with that. But, keeping it so the kids don't have to choose, don't always have to be spread between two of everything, will be so, so helpful.

The couple of divorced friends and acquaintances that I have that share birthdays, have family dinners, share holidays (so kids get to be with everyone) as much as possible are winning at life. Everyone was (eventually) happier. Kids super well-adjusted. It wasn't always that way at first (esp where there was cheating involved) but after some passage at time, they are all better off.

Just recognize there is a light at the end and it will eventually get better. By contrast, my parents were contentious from day one of their separation. It was truly awful. [/quote]

PP here - this opinion does not necessarily hold if there was abuse and other serious concerns. That's a harder position. I didn't get that from your post but I just wanted to give that caveat.[/quote]

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