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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The number one thing, looking back, is that I wish they had not made me shuffle between their houses every week (one week with dad, one week with mom). It left me feeling like I had no real home and was just living out of a duffel bag. [/quote]

+1.  Our schedule was 2 days, 2 days, 5 days, 5 days and it SUCKED.  My friends' parents would even comment to me that it was so hard to try to make playdates with me because of my schedule.  That's a lot for an 8 year old.

I'll also agree with the unpopular opinion on remarriage.

Don't use your kid as your therapist.

Don't point out things you dislike about your ex and then identify that trait in your child.  To their face.

Put them away, but keep the photos.  I'm always intrigued to look at them and think that, once upon a time, my parents could be in the same room and smiling.[/quote]

How hard is it for the other parent to forward the email saying Larla is being asked for a play date.  This is your day so please coordinate or decline.

As a stepparent if I have both addresses, I sent things like invitations to both parents since many would not work together.

Parenting with a every other weekend and 6 weeks summer is pointless.  That's your favorite uncle situation, not a parent.  At that point, just terminate the parents rights so everyone can move on.[/quote]

You are very wrong.  Plus logistically speaking divorced  parents are not always able to remain within a 10 min drive from each other.  50/50 custody is not always possible when one parent gets relocated for work or various other life situations.  [/quote]

No, I am not.  My husband has several kids.  It was completely pointless especially when its so easy for mom to deny visits.  Dad becomes a child support check.  If a parent moves away with a child, the other parent should get all summer and every holiday.  If the reality is the one parent rarely or never sees the child, the rights should be terminated and the custodial parent should be 100% responsible.  We got sued by someone after one of the kids did something really stupid.  The judge threw out the part of suing us but went after mom as she had custody but it was a huge mess and cost us a lot of money.  Mom refused visits and Dad was a child support check as the courts would not uphold visitation.  [/quote]

I had an every other weekend situation with my dad and the idea that I'd have been better off with nothing is insulting and cruel. You're a step parent not a child of divorce so dont speak about that which you do not know.

You sound cold. You can have a robust relationship with your kids with limited visitation. I know because I had it. My dad called me all the time and we lived by a mantra of quality not quantity.

Seriously do not apply your bitter experience as a stepparent to try to encourage parental alienation. If you convince even one parent that this is true that results in a loving parent being alienated you will have done a terrible thing and literally made a person's entire life lesser.[/quote]

Something that you need to be aware of are the stepparents like the PP.

They’re looking for any reason to aileanate kids from their parents and they’re absolutely obsessed with child support. Just look at PP saying it would be better to terminate the dad’s parental rights in exchange for no child support. There are horrible people out there  -  your ex could very well marry someone who hates your kids.

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