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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of my divorced friends say that will never marry again and then suddenly they meet a wonderful man and they change their mind. I think most people would like a partner in life but after a divorce it is very easy to say never again and for a good reason. And yes, some people are much better off alone. [/quote]

Awww. I'm divorced and engaged. I agree with this post. After abuse, or addiction, or dealing with someone's mental illness, it's hard to imagine you can trust again. And then it happens, after a lot of hard work.

There are some serious considerations after divorce, like losing support payments if you remarry, or forcing already-hurt children into a blended family (we waited until all kids are in college). It's a lot more complicated than when we were baby twenty-soemthings the first time around re: marriage, and the stakes seemed so low.

One of my most hardened divorced friends just melted about five years ago when she met someone wonderful. They have been happily married for four years now, and he his helping her raise her kids.

But I equally respect all sorts of relationships including long-term partnerships without marriage. I do think that society respects these less - I've been mortified meeting my fiancee at hotels when they cross-examine me about who I am when I arrive to get the room key, etc. We could never share health insurance, I guess, without living together. It's weird to be the only non-spouse at company Christmas parties. I honestly don't feel comfortable sometimes.

We need to change this as a society. Marriage is not for everyone, at all times in their lives. 
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