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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does your husband feel about having a third kid? Is he onboard with you quitting your job?[/quote]

He’d be totally on board with both bc while he “loves” my success / ambition /intelligence, what he actually wants is he sah spouse who will do anything to ensure she keeps the country club membership and vacations she could never afford on her own (I’m being hyperbolic - but he’d have been much better suited for a woman who aspired to be a sah wife and admired him for his earning capabilities). He wants the image of an accomplished wife with the support of a content homemaker [/quote]

[b]Wow. I wonder if we're ever going to get to the point where we openly discuss this is a large part of why there's a gender pay gap, lack of women CEO's and the like, and teach our daughters accordingly, but I digress.
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OP, you don't say how old you are, but I'm guessing 30's if you are thinking a of a third kid.  I urge you to think about 10-15 years out, not right now. I think going from working to SAH greatly changes the dynamic in the marriage and frankly how you're perceived by other people. I experienced a period of several years where I was in an administrative role after having a professional career and it did a number on me psychologically. I also think you may come to resent the fact that you off-ramped and your husband didn't keep up his end of the bargain.

I'd tread slowly and carefully.[/quote]

NP here and I totally agree with the bolded. The guys make their wife SAH, which frees up all their mental energy so they can focus on work and only work. Whereas very few women get that, unless they stay single or childless.[/quote]

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