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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never seen on a thread where a dad can't get his kid to school on time, can't hold a job, can't hold stable housing, that the answer is that the woman should give him the money to cover his expenses, give him child support money (and increase it), provide him with transportation and housing, and change the child's school to be closer to dad who moves all the time.

You all are crazy.

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OP, is just saying Mom has trouble with gas/getting to school.  Rather than a custody grab, you help. Stepmom is probably alienating child and bribing her so that her home is better so they can get out of paying child support/helping.  She wants to pretend they are one big happy family and cut mom out (and, I'd say that if the situation were reversed). They live in the same area.  No reason stepmom or dad cannot help get the child to school and help with what they need at her house.  As a stepmom I fully supplied the clothing at Mom's house. I wasn't going to let a child go without.[/quote]

Clarksburg and Manassas aren’t in the same area. Our jobs and our kid’s daycare are in our area. We don’t know that she misses school when she’s with her mom unless the school or teacher informs us. She tells us when it’s too late that she didn’t have gas money or her had some car issue. I’m not bribing her, this custody idea was DH’s not mine because he wants his daughter in a stable environment.[/quote]

I don't think I've seen this addressed, but is the moving also causing the child to have to move schools? How many different schools has she been in?

Another poster had a good list of things to document - how long they've lived in each place, when they haven't had housing (i.e. - couch surfing), etc.

At the end of the day, I'd talk to a lawyer and start applying pressure to mom. An 11 year old deserves to have a stable home if there's one available. Mom needs to understand this. And it's not about her being poor.[/quote]

She changed schools twice when she was in second grade due to her mom moving. That was when her mom and my husband decided it was best for her to go to school in our neighborhood.[/quote]

If he choose his neighborhood school, he should help with transportation more.  Simple solution.[/quote]

I haven't seen any indication that he isn't or isn't willing to - mom apparently flakes out the morning of when she doesn't have gas money or the like. The OP isn't complaining that mom is asking for that help, she's saying mom doesn't get the kid to school on time consistently, the kid is always moving around, and mom doesn't seem to be able to keep a job.

I'm team OP here - the 11 yo should be with Dad during the week, in her own house and her own room and limit the chaos and instability to weekends.[/quote]

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