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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is $500 a budget buster for you?   If you guys can afford it, I’d let dh decide if he wants to do it or not.  Your anger at him being a deadbeat dad is anger on behalf of your dh, but at the same time you’re taking the decision away from your dh.  I wouldn’t do that.  [/quote]

But...while $500 might not break the budget, future asks could. This is the first ask (second if you count the wedding request), it won't be the last. How willing is your DH going to be to say No in the future if its for $2,000? $5,000? $10,000?

You need to know that before agreeing to $500.[/quote]

It is very possible to make different decisions for subsequent requests. No one is signing in blood that if he gives him money once, he must forever give him money upon any request. I have absolutely given people money and haven't fallen victim to the slippery slope. [/quote]

You’re right - but were those emotional decisions, or thoughtfully made?  It sounds to me like OPs husband is making an emotional decision - because it’s a car, so wife can work, blah blah. Whose to say future decisions won’t be made in the same way?[/quote]

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