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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is even happening in this thread?! I just...

Are people THIS class-conscious? Or is it that rich people are this class-conscious? (And yeah, the OP sounds at least UMC, if not higher— at least according to Kate Wagner of McMansion Hell, a mansion is basically any home over 3000 sq ft.)

It’s not like I don’t notice when a friend is wealthy or poor but just... I can’t believe people put this much thought into it! To the point of being so self-conscious about their position that they refuse or don’t offer invitations! And I’m not talking about someone who lives in a run-down apartment being self-conscious around someone who lives in 5000 sq ft in Potomac— what this is really about are people who live in nice SFH or people who live in legit mansions worrying about their class position relative to each other.

I just... the mind boggles.[/quote]

It’s easy to wonder why other people are self conscious while you are well off.

Anyways...OP, if you can’t get past this, plan outings and invite people instead. Go to a park and out to lunch, to the movies, a concert, museum, out to dinner etc. [/quote]

I'm not well-off! I mean, I do own an 1100 sq ft house in a "bad school district." Which was the first home I ever purchased, 1 year ago, at the age of 40. Prior to that, I lived in apartments. So I guess if that makes me well-off.

You have completely and totally missed my point, which was that I am shocked that people who (mostly) clearly ARE well-off are self-conscious about this kind of thing. But I guess it would be the people who are most class-privileged who are most class-conscious.[/quote]

Is this the OP?  You yourself said you live in a mansion.... 1100 sq?

Why so judgmental?  I socialize with people I like and have fun with.  I don’t care about the size of their house and certainly do not judge how they celebrate or what decorations they have.  You are very judgmental.  Some people are minimalists and some love to decorate every corner.  It’s their home.  I only care about who lives there.[/quote]

Op here. That was not me. Our house is 10,000sf. Our house is not professionally decorated. Our house is mostly bare with a lot of windows.

I wrote this post after two recent experiences. At the end of the day, I didn’t click with mom at over the top party and I plan to invite the other kid over for a play date. I’m already over their house and the over the top party.[/quote]

People have a reading comprehension problem.

The PP with the 1100 sq ft home is me, and how I'm judgmental (what, of rich people being overly concerned with status?) I don't know.

Why would OP say she doesn't understand why people care about this, when she obviously does.

But OP... You don't "live in a mansion" and it's 10,000 sq ft. Get the eff out of here. Unless it's actually an industrial warehouse, it's a mansion.

Ah, America. Rich people don't think they're rich, and poor people think they're middle class.[/quote]

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