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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say - if you meet someone great organically, don’t hold yourself back. But maybe wait a year before doing stuff like online dating.

Also, just because op is dating doesn’t mean the kids lives have to be affected a lot by that at first. I date a divorced dad with teens and we are only slowly starting to have me there at family events etc. I’m fine with waiting to they go to college to get married and move in. There’s a big difference between dating and bringing home a stepdad. [/quote]

Good luck with that.  No matter how old a man's kids are, odds are one (or all) of them will have a problem with you.  Including when they marry and have their own kids.

Unless the divorced mother of the kids is welcoming to you and encourages her kids to have a relationship with you, it won't ever be successful.

Maternal loyalty binds are life-long.  [/quote]

I’m not sure what your point is. Are you saying my relationship with their dad won’t be successful because of his kids? Or are you saying the kids won’t accept me as some sort of stepmom figure? My goal is to have a successful happy relationship with their dad (which I do now) and at least a civil relationship with his sons. I don’t expect them to treat me like a second mom. They have parents.[/quote]

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