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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I’m in biglaw with two kids. I had my first in law school so I’ve never known it any other way.

A nanny won’t necessarily make it better especially since your baby is doing well. Nannies have sick days, vacations, and also a quitting time just like a closing daycare.

I personally can’t leave at 5 so I don’t do pickup. My workflow just would never allow that. I have an au pair but it sounds like your DH can do it.

IME law firms are relatively chill about you coming in late. I’d keep using your mornings like you do but stay later so you’re not up til midnight every night.

Juniors should not be giving you shit. Not all firms have that kind of defective culture. I have moved firms twice making sure my culture is working for me. Just because you want to leave your firm doesn’t mean you need to leave biglaw and the paycheck. [/quote]

I agree with PP that a nanny might not be easier.  There is a lot of work and uncertainty managing many nannies that you wouldn’t have with daycare.  I also agree your dh should do pickup.

My kids are now 5 and 4 and they have been in daycare throughout.  My husband works for the gov so he can do pickups and is generally more flexible and can be the default parent most of the time.  I try hard to get home for dinner and bedtime and succeed often.  Those days I log on once they go down.  If I miss bedtime, then I usually stay late to plow through as much as possible to increase the odds of making it home the next day.

Don’t listen to folks who say you have to quit.  There are people who make it and thrive.[/quote]

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