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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I understand. My cousin had his very expensive tuition ($60k/year in the 1990s) paid for by my grandfather and my uncle (cousin’s uncle) sent him money every month because b he had no spending money. Cousin never worked summer jobs and now doesn’t even do anything in the field he has his very expensive oboe degree, yep a damm oboe! $250k down the drain. He works as a delivery manager for a pot dispenser in San Fran. Us 3 grandkids received $25 on our birthday and $15 for Christmas from the tuition paying grandfather. I hold no ill will toward my grandfather, he was an incredible guy who had so much love for us,[b] it just made me scratch my head as to why we weren’t treated financially equal.[/b] The tuition for my siblings and I combined was around $30K a year at that time. Sometimes life gives us lessons that illustrate isn’t fair and luckily my parents worked their butts off to get 3 kids through college.[/quote]

Are you aware of how your own parents felt about receiving financial help from your grandparents?

My family was like what you described. My grandparents subsidized 100% of my cousins' lives and 0% of mine and my sibling's. But it was because my father did not want his father's money, while his brother happily accepted.  The inequality was not of my grandparents' choosing.

Things aren't always what they seem. [/quote]

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