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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I saw my DH was in a really bad mood, I'd probably discourage him from doing the bedtime routine and ask him to go relax/have a glass of wine (if it would mellow him, not if it made him more cranky), or asked him to find us a movie to watch. But, full disclosure, even when my DH is cranky, he doesn't behave this way, so this is all hypothetical. [/quote]

OP here.  I'm totally happy doing the whole bedtime with DC every night and have told DH that.  He insists on doing it the way we have been.  He has never liked reading with DC, so if I am out of town he skips that part.  He likes lying down next to DC and sometimes falls asleep/takes a short nap.  Ever since DC started kindergarten he has had a little burst of energy right before bedtime.  He goes to bed on the early side (7:15/7:30pm) so maybe we should push it later.[/quote]

What kind of dad doesn't like reading to his kids?! Maybe he needs to read up on the importance. Reading to your kids is the #1 indicator for success. [b]It's so important to have two involved parents who love reading. [/b][/quote]

Oh, that's just bulls*$t! 
One parent reading to a child is great.  If a parent can't read (there are some adults who cannot) or doesn't read English well - there are many bright immigrants who might not be able to read well enough to melodiously read a book, my grandparents being 2 of them.   And just not liking to read is also a concept.  He likes to lay next to him - THAT would make me CRAZY!  I will read, but when it's time to say goodnight, lay down and go to sleep. I'm not laying with you, blah blah.  So your DH and I would be a great team!

Perhaps he needs to go to bed a bit later.  Or perhaps he needs to just LISTEN to his father and work out the kinks of "read, then lie down and fall asleep."  DH might enjoy chatting with DS about his day for a little bit as they lay together - kids often like to process their day in the dark without anyone looking at them - and he could do that, then in a few minutes say ok, time to sleep now, no more talking.  BUT there is NO WAY a child who just had 2 or 3 books read to him needs to be getting up and playing.  It's bedtime. Playing is for before you go to bed.

Perhaps you and your husband change the routine - 7-7:15 is playtime with Dad. Then he goes upstairs, brush teeth, wash face, calls you to read read books with you and then at 7:45 Dad lays with him.  he'd be getting to sleep only 15-30 minutes later but he'd have some playtime before the entire routine. [/quote]

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