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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I have an 8 year like this. As much as he is a loving, caring, and personable child, he can push a saint over the line. Our last major issue was him not putting his clean clothes away. He went would hide them and lie about no matter how many times I caught him. His older brother (whom he loves) tried to encourage, and even bribe him. It went on for months. It got out of hand. I had threatened to take all of his toys away and finally had to follow through. I took every last toy and privilege away. He would have to earn each toy/privilege back one by one, with his favorite toys being returned last. If he slipped up, he went back to no toys/privileges and we would start again. I can't begin to tell you how hard this was for everyone in the house. It sucked, but it was the only thing that finally worked. I tell you all of this to hopefully provide some hope, to tell you that kids need to know that you are serious, and that you have to find the consequence that works for your child.[/quote]

omg. YOU need therapy too. [b]all this over a chore? wtf is wrong with you?[/b][/quote]

It's not the chore -- if his mom told him to put his clothes away, he should put them away. The fact that he's putting more effort into NOT doing it than DOING it is telling -- re, it's not about the chore. OP here and I was meaning to respond to this post as well. We have something similar going on in terms of something my DC is also putting way more effort into not doing than it would take to just do it. He is alpha, and although this may (or may not) come in handy when he grows up, it doesn't work on a day-to-day basis when he's the freakin' kid. He can't move up, grow, take on more responsibility etc if he refuses to cooperate.

As I already posted, we crossed a line together and I feel really changed by what's happened. It's not one thing it's the last of a long line of things. I took drastic action yesterday, PP-with-the-kid-who-won't-put-away-his-clothes, and last night and this morning were eerily calm in our household. Too soon to see how long that will last but I appreciated reading your post.[/quote]

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