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Why don't they feel comfortable having a sleepover with their own grandmother? How sad is that? Why don't you ask them what's wrong that is making them uncomfortable? It would be a shame if they didn't get the chance to form a strong bond and lasting memories of sleeping over at their grandparents' house IMO.

OP, it hasn't even crossed your mind to ask them why?

Not OP — Sounds, at a minimum, that Grandma is pushy and unconcerned with the children’s preferences. Is that not enough?

Um, no, it's not enough. You don't think it's of any value that these kids have memories of sleepovers at their grandmother's house because she's pushy? Jesus. Talk about delicate flowers.

Sounds like great memories! All those creepy nights staying at grandma’s house with her boyfriend and his mentally disturbed grandchild. Sooo much fun! I’m sure the kids will look back on those visits very fondly.

OP, your kids are going to hate you (and grandma) for not protecting them and putting them in this situation.

OP already said NOTHING HAPPENED. They just don't want to go. How about if OP and her DH wanted to go away and leave the kids with their grandmother? Would it then be okay for them to say, no, I don't want to go there because grandma is too pushy? If you can't love a variety of people who are in your own family, how can people be expected to care about others in the world? Seriously, being pushy is no reason not to do these sleepovers. Maybe it would be a good experience for them to be around someone pushy....

NP. You sound pretty pushy, PP.

I would not require my kids to attend those. It's important for kids to know that you respect them. And the bribery is beyond the pale. I'd just let the contact drop off.[/quote]

+1000 The PP sounds incredibly self centered. Pushy, entitled people always can not fathom why someone does not want to do what they want. The more they push the more they end up pushing everyone away. The kids will end up having a far better relationship with grandma if their mom sets boundaries with grandma and respects them. If the OP forces to them to go, they aren't going to magically decide that sleep overs with grandma are delightful. They'll simple beg harder the next time not to go and do whatever they can to avoid her in other instances.

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