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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

OP here.

Wow.
Please stop impugning my relationship with my father, or imagining that I'm a pushy shrew or something!

We actually have a great relationship. We never criticize each other (can't say the same thing for other relatives!), and up until now always wanted to visit the same places.

And when my kids were little, they were very accommodating. We traveled with them everywhere with extended family, and never had any trouble. As tweens and teens, they still want to do the same things we've always done (ie, nature vacations), which is a relief.

Please understand that I am concerned for my father. I hear you about the idea that it may not be mental decline, but perhaps that new large trips get overwhelming for someone of his years and that's just how it is. I'm still going to keep tabs on his behavior via my mother, because I know that my aunts and uncles, all older than my father, and my friends' parents, take frequent international trips, with or without limitations and care issues. So, it's perfectly possible to do so when one is 70 or 80.
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I think this is somewhat common, especially in older men. I don't know if it stems from a loss of the control they once had, being more comfortable with routine, or what. I see this a little bit in my father, although he now tends to get really sick with a cold when he travels, so I understand.

Have you talked to him directly and let him know you've seen this change? If he can open up to what the real issue is, you might have a better chance of reassuring him. But he also might dig in with the crowds and bad food excuses.[/quote]

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