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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm only 44, but I am quickly losing my tolerance for uncomfortable "vacations" with family.  I fully admit to being pickier about food, scheduling (mostly being on time for planes & trains), and sleeping accommodations than most people, but that's not the issue.

The issue is when my relatives push back/criticize/mock my preferences, despite the fact that I'm not impacting them in any way. Or refuse to accommodate my reasonable requests (like the time I want to leave for the airport, for no discernable reason other that to disagree with me.)  Or randomly change things we have already agreed on (like adding more guests to the shared house or changing the room we are sleeping in) in a way that impacts my plan.  Or outright lying about accommodations (claiming they have an airbed when they actually don't - "you can just sleep on this beanbag chair!")  Or mocking/criticizing my food choices (e.g., I bought a dozen eggs because having protein in the AM is really important to me, and get tons of questions about that apparently bizarre thing to do.)

Hopefully OP is not like my relatives, but she may want to think about what happened on the last family vacation. If she disrespected or refused to accommodate something her dad wanted, then that may be at the root of it.  If she asks her dad if there is anything she can do to make the trip easier in terms of food and sleeping arrangements, maybe he will tell her.

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I totally get you! My sister and SIl are like your family! I am a bit older than you. If we are too be at an airport 2 hours ahead, and I want to leave on time, and imo, even late, I am mocked and told that we will be fine if we leave an hour before the flight! And I think sister does it just to pi** me off and mock me. But, I have to listen to her complaining about "who could have known there would be traffic or TSA lines!" I lived and traveled my whole life, on 3 continents! And never missed a fligth, yet she has and even forgot her passport!
The egg thing is a bit weird though, with my sister if she books accommodations I have confidence and let her because she is an utter snob! [/quote]

I feel ya.  The last time I depended on my brother to get me to the train station, his concept of arriving "on time" was to pull up literally the minute the train was scheduled to depart ... [/quote]

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