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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is normal and I think your father's decision about Yellowstone is very reasonable. I can't see how that would not involve a lot of walking, and it sounds that he would have to take care of your mom, which he probably does a lot as it is. This is not anxiety, imo, it is being realistic and I honestly don't think your idea of him and your handicapped mom joining you was realistic at all. How much does he take care of your mom daily?[/quote]

OP here.

They have their little place in the mountains they go to every summer, and they hike the trails!
My mother's physical handicap is in her hands, not her legs, so she can walk, but needs help with certain aspects of self-care and feeding and she has a strong preference for my father doing those things. 
The thing is, their summer place is part of their routine, so apparently my father has no objection to packing up the car, driving there, and spending every day walking about. 
We've done road trips in the past to other National Parks, which he absolutely loved, and he talk about doing more last year. They live far away from us so it's a nice way to meet up.

This current issue seems to have developed this year.

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Why can't he just not feel like going?
Maybe your mom needs to learn to travel without him.  Can you or someone else help her?[/quote]

OP, you identify your dad as the "problem," but go on to say that your mom has a "strong preference" for your dad to be the person to help her with self-care and feeding.

As the spouse of a disabled person, I can assure you that traveling with a physically handicapped person is *work*.  It is not relaxing at all and IME, not really a vacation (in the sense that vacations are vacations with fully-capable people).

Leave it be.[/quote]

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