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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a very context-specific question. OP, I think you know that most people wouldn't just help themselves in someone else's house... so what happened?[/quote]

OP here. Thanks for the posts, all. I'm trying to get a sense of whether my instinct and reaction here is normal, or not.

My ILs stayed with us for several days. We took them out to dinner, made a huge holiday meal, provided food and drink in our home, offered alcohol at cocktail hour every night and wine with dinner. Could not have been more generous, stocking all their favorite foods and beverages.

On the last night, I find that FIL has rooted around in our cupboards and found a very expensive bottle of scotch that I received from my boss as not only a holiday gift, but also a congratulations on a huge project closing gift. Multiple hundred dollar bottle, engraved. It was not kept in our liquor cabinet, but in another cabinet. He has opened it and is pouring for himself and his wife, without asking. Without even waiting for me to be around.

I was horrified and let him know that it was a gift and that I didn't appreciate him taking some without asking. He got very defensive and told me the whole time it's been a family visit and help yourself. Anyway, I let it go, but I am still furious. [/quote]

Yeah, he was in the wrong.  Alcohol, liquor specifically, is a different story even with close family because it can be expensive.  I would certainly help myself to a beer from my in-laws refrigerator, but I would never drink their liquor without asking first.  Hell, I wouldn't even open a bottle of wine without asking.
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