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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your happiness is not conditioned on any human. It is within you, regardless where you live and who is next to you. It is true, that having certain people around you can make your life happier and more fulfilled, but it is not necessary prerequisite of happiness. What makes you happy? Try to find things that you love. Can you think about your spouse as a roommate? You would never blame your roommate for your unhappiness. [/quote]

This is true about your own happiness being within you. However I’ll add that challenges such as a special needs child and the work that requires can seriously impact one’s personal growth and happiness. And that should not be treated lightly. Caregiver burnout is real. I have an untreated ADD spouse and he seriously impacts my happiness because I’ve spent my marriage putting out ADD fires. Divorce when you have kids is not an option because leaving little kids with someone who has untreated ADD or other condition for 2 weeks out of a month would be terrifying. So I put out the fires until my kids were launched. Now it’s my turn, and I had the ‘come to Jesus’ conversation about how love is not enough to hold a marriage together.

It’s great to throw out all sorts of emotional platitudes but the reality is, circumstances often change priorities. [/quote]

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