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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have the same issue. Miserably unhappy where we live but spouse refuses to ever move anywhere. But filing for divorce would blow up retirement.[/quote]

I could say the same thing.  I could leave him, but I am still stuck living here with the kids.  So I might as well stay and try to make the best of it.  We were happy and loved each other at some point, maybe we will again one day.  [/quote]
I have trouble seeing how, within reason, location could have that huge an effect on your happiness. Unless, say, you lived in a highly misogynistic or totalitarian country. I'm very political and opinionated, but even in places where most people do not share your values, there exist potential friends. Where do you live?[/quote]

It isn’t where we live as much as where we don’t live.  We are 1200 miles away from all of our family and close friends from early in our marriage that got married and had kids when we did.  Like pp said, it’s not about not having nice restaurants, it’s more about not having real friends and family who just show up and hang out, space to walk outdoors, the ability to play the sport I live, etc.

I also thought I could find those friends anywhere, but we have been here for four years now, gotten involved in a church, hosted playgroups, had friends over from work, had many parties, and I still can’t seem to make it work.  There are people I enjoy spending time with, but no one I really love dearly and see as family.

We could live on my salary, and I could get a job close to home,.  But DH has made it pretty clear that if I left with the kids, he would file for divorce and attempt the press charges for kidnapping.  So, here we are.  Trying to make it work.  [/quote]

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