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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You did the right thing.

But, you need to get your emotions in check. What he did was completely normal behavior for 17 year olds. Not saying that you shouldn’t punish him but stop acting like this is a huge deal and he’s a failure and you failed as a mother and all that BS that’s going through your head.

I’m impressed he gave it the old college try. But yeah he got caught so he gets punished[/quote]

This is what I think too, OP.

It is his job to push away and be a pain in the ass.  YOur post makes it sound like maybe you grew up somewhere else, perhaps somewhere that is different culturally. In the US, kids go away to college and they rebel before then. They rebel and push for independence the same way that they did at 2 and 3 yrs old.  Your ds made mistakes, and he should have consequences for them, but he is not headed to juvenile hall.  He is pushing away from you in a normal way.  Just like with a toddler, some kids have to go through these stages.

He should have consequences because he got caught but he is not a failure and you are not a failure.  Don't go over the top here, but yes, he should get consequences and deal with them. 
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