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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did I miss something, or are you upset because you spent $900 and the ex spent $1,000?  There's almost no difference between those two numbers.  Also, that's a lot to spend.  You could probably dial it back quite a bit.

I'm raising an 11-year-old with my ex and we compare notes before holidays to make sure we're not gifting the same thing.  (unless it's something she would want at each house.)  But I don't care who spends what, or if she likes his gift more.  It just doesn't matter.

I'm not sure it would occur to my daughter to thank me for taking her to Frozen 2.  Which I did, and I was super bored and wishing I had seen Zombieland 2 instead.  :-)  She did get excited to go, though, and that's basically the same thing.[/quote]

Clarifying, because you asked, we spent $900 collectively - and she spent over $1k on each. And, yes, I think that is a lot. There is a long history here of how money spent has been used against DH, which I won't get into, because people don't seem to think it's relevant.

I think it's fine if they like a gift more than another - we all do. But it's really challenging when they've been pre-programmed to think that if something doesn't cost a certain amount, then it lacks value.

This was the thing I was trying to convey with the movie example. 
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