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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All I want for Christmas is to see both my parents on Christmas morning; to be together and relaxed with my real family, not shuffled around with complicated plans, spending half the time feeling uncomfortable with strangers.

But hey...sorry I forgot to say thanks for the movie.

[b](By the way, OP? In real families, when we do things together as a family, like go to the movies, it's not a thank-you situation. That's just spending time together.)[/b][/quote]

NP. I expect my kids (4&7) to say thank you for taking them to the movies (which I just did for Frozen 2). It's expensive and it's a treat to go, so showing gratitude seems appropriate. [/quote]

Fine, I'm sure you have taught them to say please and thank you for a long time, and this is just one more way to do it. I'm also sure you probably prompted them to do it, and you didn't just expect spontaneous wells of gratitude.  I'm [b]also pretty sure you don't have a covert agenda [/b]to find reasons to believe that your kids are bad kids, the way OP does.

And, it is weird to expect your small kids to say thank you for everything you spend on them.  Do you also ask them to say thank you when you pay the mortgage and day care bill every month? Take them to the doctor?  Put gas in the car?  In the grocery check-out line?  Going to the movies isn't exactly like giving your kid a glass of juice.  They don't really understand that you're paying for them, not any more than they understand you're paying the mortgage every month.  Saying thank you for buying movie tickets is a more sophisticated social interaction that I wouldn't really expect to happen unprompted until later.  [/quote]

No covert agenda here, but nice try.

I find it really interesting that many of you can't acknowledge that sometimes it is NOT the stepmom who is the bad guy. Whether you want to admit it or not, there are biomoms who can and do go to great lengths to alienate their children from their fathers, and I have been watching in in full force for a number of years. It is very sad, and very challenging to combat.

Maybe I didn't give a lot of backstory in my original post, but I don't know that would have mattered much...

Also, as I just posted, we can agree to disagree about what kids should be saying thank you for, but I think it's a pretty sad commentary that people think teens aren't capable of recognizing that they should offer a simple thank you for things - big, or small. You may disagree with me, but I think that this really contributes to a culture of entitlement...[/quote]

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