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[quote=Anonymous]Don't get your head all wrapped up in a certain birth experience - it doesn't matter in the end and it's not a thing you can control.  My kid was sideways and wouldn't turn so I had a c-section - my recovery was just fine and I now absolutely see the merits of a "show up at 10, have a baby at 12" birth experience too, though it was devastating at the time.

EVERYTHING is a phase.  This too shall pass.

Split the night, from the beginning. Even if you're on maternity leave, caring for a tiny baby is still a job just like going to work.

If Dad has access to paternity leave, he takes it. Ideally alone after mom goes back to work.  This is not only important for your child and household, but for gender parity in the workplace in general.

If I had it to do over again - I wouldn't pump once I went back to work.  It's a big logistical PITA for little or no proven benefit.  I also wish I'd known how important lactation support in the hospital is, as well as shortly after. We didn't get a good BFing rhythm until 6 weeks which felt like an eternity of pumping.

If I had it to do over again, I'd also sleep train earlier.  My kid woke up twice a night until 9 months (see also: split the night, above) when our old school pediatrician was like: you know she really doesn't have to eat overnight anymore... A few rough nights and she's slept 12 straight hours since.  I would have done it at 6 months I think.

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