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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are you? Sounds like a mid-life crisis to me. You are blaming your unhappiness on your husband's imagined shortcomings, but it's actually just you.  [/quote]
Came here to post this. My guess is that you’re not happy with yourself and are looking to pin your unhappiness on him. [/quote]
I am open to considering this, but I think my feelings have gotten stronger as I have become more successful at work. I am more tired due to more hours and feel [b]solely responsible for making [i]my [/i]dreams come true[/b]. I find myself wishing my DH was contributing more, both financially and in spirit. I am starting to think we don't share the same dreams and wondering how to reconcile that. [/quote]
This is a big red flag and really points to you being the problem here. You are responsible for your dreams. No one else is every responsible for your dreams. It doesn’t sound like you share a vision/dreams with your spouse.

You need some serious therapy to decide why you are looking at your husband as the problem here. And let him go. He deserves better than you.[/quote]

OP, you lost me here too. Do your dreams involve being taken care of or achieving a certain level of professional success yourself?  Do you expect you spouse to help you achieve your professional goals?  I'm confused trying to figure out what you want from him?[/quote]

OP dreams of diving into a pile of money Scrooge McDuck style. But her DH is just a GS14 drone and she thought she was marrying a breadwinner b/c he was smart. [/quote]

I did think I was marrying someone more ambitious, yes. I was attracted to his passion when we first met. I always, always wanted that quality in my spouse. I did think he would keep passionately pursuing big things. It hasn’t quite panned out that way. He has turned out to be very risk averse and he talks a lot about things that might happen someday. He doesn’t take action to make things happen, but I do. I feel like I am the only one actually driving us forward. I am resentful as hell about it. [/quote]

So it’s money?[/quote]

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