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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mid 40s and agree that many of the divorces come out of the woods when the middle school years start.  A couple that were surprising.  Not aware of any addictions, but yes to dead bedrooms and infidelity.  My guess is people neglect their spouses when kids are little.  As the ghost of Christmas future to you young parents, keep the sex and intimacy going at all costs unless you want to join the club[/quote]

You are actually reading that wrong. You are assuming all the couples who stayed together had lots of sex during the crazy difficult kid years. The truth is that the difference is not in having sex or not, but in couples understanding each other needs and that short term problems are just that, short term. For better or worse, you gotta roll through the tough times. People who bail because the child years are tough, didn't understand that for better or worse meant there would be hard times.[/quote]

No actually there is a strong correlation between couples who don’t have sex leading to divorce. Why would you claim otherwise? Having children does not prevent a normal active sex life so why do you depict this as an expected thing when it’s actually a major sign the marriage is in trouble?[/quote]
Where is that research or is this just something you "know"? [/quote]

google "what is the #1 cause for divorce" and the answer: sexual infidelity... which is a politically correct way of saying  "one of the spouses does not want sex, so the other goes elsewhere in order to save their marriage"

and what about YOUR assertion: where are the facts supporting that sexless marriages are equally successful as normal marriages with normal sex?[/quote]

When my husband got involved with his coworker, I was working full-time (more hours than him) and doing more of the childcare. He was too busy to find time to spend with me and too tired to get up with the kids in the morning (any morning, really) but he somehow found time for a girlfriend. And, even with all of that, we were still having regular sex. He had a number of reasons, after the fact, why both the sex and I were inadequate, but nonetheless it was happening. I understand it being appealing, this idea that people who are cheated on had it coming. But whatever my faults were, turning him down was never one of them. (I did not initiate, but that was because he'd told me that was unattractive.) [/quote]

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