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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. You’re right it is delusional. It bothers me though because it makes me wonder how long she’s felt this way and why she’s saying it now.[/quote]

You can't change what people think, only your reaction to it.  My mother says stuff like this to me (and she believes it too), but she's not saying it to hurt me, she's just from a different generation when it wasn't common for women to work outside the home. Let it go OP.[/quote]

This. My grandmother has a thing about day care. She's constantly talking up how great a mother my cousin is because she has a nanny instead of sending her 3 kids to daycare. It's become a joke with my sister and me to lightly provoke our grandmother into a day care rant (which is fairly mild as rants go), and then casually mention that my 2 year old knows her letters or my sister's 18 month old knows her colors, and must have learned that at day care. Whereupon Grandma invariably responds with wonder and amazement at what a great day care we've found. Then the next time we talk it starts over again. (I always wonder what she says to my cousin about us, but cousin and I aren't close so I haven't asked.)

You just have to let it roll off. We all have things we judge others for. Usually silently, but some people like to make it explicit. It's not worth getting riled up over; it won't change her mind and it won't make you feel better.[/quote]

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